Suppose you have a question in your mind, to whom you will ask for its answer?
Maybe to your close one or your best friend or your life partner. Am I right?
Mostly we seek the answer to our problems to others. But have you ever listen to your inner voice? Here in this article, we will discuss some simple ways which will help you listen to your inner self.
Try to integrate some of the following steps each day because you are cultivating a relationship with yourself.
1. What your values are – learn about them
Your life values are what matters to you. If you don’t know your true values then you might constantly feel restless and discontent. To identify your true values, look at your self, your choices, and preferences that bring to you happiness. If you think your value is money, then why you hate your job? If you think your value is power, then imagine yourself as the most powerful person where you are giving commands to others. Would this make you happy or you feel lonely?
If you aren’t sure about your true value, try imagining a life living only that value then think of where that value came from. Is it yours, or your family or friends have that value.
2. Dig out your core beliefs
Your core beliefs are viewpoints you have about yourself and others. These beliefs stem from childhood and are passed on to you by your family. They sound like things such as, ‘the world is a dangerous place’, ‘you can’t trust anyone’, and ‘money is the root of all evil’.
The problem with core beliefs is that until you recognize them, they settled down in your subconscious mind and you take your decisions based on those beliefs. They are rooted so deep that they stop you from listening to yourself.
You have to be honest about what your core beliefs are and to dig them out, and you can take help of a coach or counselor. But removing the ones that mislead you and replacing them with ones that bring more ease to your life is a truly powerful and time taking process.
3. Recognize your inner critic
Watch out for a voice in your head that sounds like a parent telling you what to do in a way. It might sound like your mother or father, or another guardian or mentor if they were hard on you when you were growing up. It often speaks using terms like “should”, “must”, and “you better”, and also likes to compare you to others.
4. Bust through the clutter
One of the reasons you might struggle to hear your inner self is that you just have so many thoughts at one time. It’s like trying to choose a dress to wear out of hundreds. Aside from the inner critic already mentioned, you might be listening to your inner child (poor me, nobody loves me, nothing I do matters). And then you might suffer from anxieties, and worries about the past and the future.
So how to hear yourself through the chatter? Get a pen and paper and try journalling your thoughts. Just write down as fast as you can all the worries in your head, the judgments, the anger, the sadness, and the self-criticism.
What you’ll find happening is that you are writing your true voice. At first, it might take time but if you practice this technique often you will find your real voice showing up not long after the pen hits the page.
5. Practice daily
Another effective way to burst through mind clutter and listen to yourself is mindfulness. A practice of living in present or now moment, help the best. Over time you will find yourself becoming more and more efficient to recognize how you are really feeling right now, beyond the worries and thoughts.
6. Indulge your imagination
If you are only listening to your rational mind, you are only listening to a part of yourself.
If you are trying to listen to what you truly want, instead of stopping the chain of thought, try saying, well, ‘imagine if’… and see what comes up for you. To take it to the next level ask good questions to yourself which also uses your creativity.
7. Constantly ask yourself good questions
A good question often begins with ‘what’ or ‘how’ over ‘why’. Simply put, why questions always lead down rabbit holes and to self-criticism, whereas ‘what’ and ‘how’ questions look forward and come up with solutions.
Try asking yourself wild and big questions about the future to learn surprising things about yourself. For example, if you were a billionaire, what would your perfect day look like? If you were spending a week with your perfect partner, what would you do? If you had one week left to live, how would you spend it?
8. Try new things weekly
We all have been taught so many things from our parents or our friends. But do we like those things to do? If you are not sure, try to combat something new every week. For example try a different class at the gym, eat foreign food you’ve never tried, talk to someone you wouldn’t think you had anything in common with. Doing something new on a regular basis not only increase your creativity but also help you to reduce unnecessary stress.
9. Learn to let go
Holding the things in your mind is like building a dam that holds back your access to your true self. The same rule applies to our relationships. If you are constantly hanging around with people who you no longer have anything in common with and really deep down aren’t sure you even like anymore, just because you have known them since childhood, you are stopping yourself from your own potential.
10. Practise self-care often
Just like we take care of our precious things or relationships, we should be kind to ourselves. You might find that the nicer you are to yourself, the more you open up to yourself.
How can you treat yourself nicely this week? Is it a hot bath instead of spending time on the degital device or a social gathering, you don’t really want to go to?
If you are experiencing a lot of anxiety, and find it really hard to listen to yourself or know who you are, self-care might help you a lot.
Are you also struggling with this situation and not able to listen to your inner voice?
Let us know in the comment section.
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